I suppose for me, communication with the partner is super important. I don't think I could imagine saying "hey, me freezing up today meant that you raped me" because on some level I think that we don't really have a term for weird sex, or not totally into it but okay sex, or I want to watch tv but you can do me sex, or wow that was a mistake sex. It SEEMS like nowadays the default label for less-than-enthusiastic-consent sex is rape.
Fuck, I want to slap her so hard and make her wits return to her. SO MUCH BULLSHIT.